Hanukkah Shopping

One more gift to wrap before shipping.  It's an irregular one, more suitable for a gift bag than a box.  My tradition of holiday shopping transitioned after marriage.  As a youngster, my parents would get each child one gift and the children would choose one gift for each parent.  My wife's family had a different approach, one quickly adopted by me.  They would arrange for each person to open one token present with each candle.  Our Christian friends would call them stocking stuffers, maybe even less expensive than those.  A candy bar, a handkerchief, a book.  Something nominal each night.

When we married, we engaged in professional training programs that located us about 200 miles from my kin and 300 miles from hers.  It was impractical to get each person eight gifts, so my siblings and father, and hers, followed my tradition of one each for the holidays.  Boston had just begun to experiment with suspension of Blue Laws for the Christmas shopping interval.  I had most Sundays off, and my program gave us a variable holiday to allow a day off to shop for gifts.  Shabbos was never an impediment.  My wife got her eight, as did I.  Downtown Boston had endless retailers, some large, some small, as did Mass Ave in Cambridge.  

Training done, adequately paying jobs secured, permanent housing purchased.  Then expansion of our gift list by children and now grandchildren, with some contraction of parents and sibs.  The single larger presents largely stopped, the smaller gifts for household, or used to be household, continued, now approaching fifty years.

Shopping and shipping have also changed.  Blue Laws lapsed decades ago, leaving Sundays as a day available for whatever people wanted to do, including shopping.  Retailing changed.  Big Box stores and enormous chains dominate the retail landscape.  Those places to get cheap stuff: Zayre, Caldor, Woolworths, are all blessed memories.  Purchasing through e-tailing works well for substantial items, less well for tchotchkes that need shipping to multiple places.  We also no longer have those Main Street gift shops that once provided me with local, small-market craft items.  In its place came periodic craft fairs.  And I expect to travel once or twice a year.  While away, I look for an inexpensive item made locally that I can place in a drawer for a few months on returning home, then ship to a recipient for Hanukkah when the season arises.  My first Hanukkah purchase typically occurs in the summer.

Over fifty years, the transport of items has also changed.  The USPS has largely privatized, now competing with UPS and FedEx.  For my convenience, there are also franchises that will box and ship for me.  I prefer a small operation in a strip mall near me, but there are UPS Stores, Fed Ex, and Staples that make this convenient.  It allows me to bundle each recipient's items and pay a single fee.

But much like fifty years ago, the selection and wrapping remains a pleasurable annual task for me.  With my current recipient list of three young adults, two infants, and a wife, my share comes to 28 presents.  Over the years, I've learned to set categories.  Each can expect an edible, those items that cost a few dollars, come in a package that can be wrapped, and need no refrigeration.  The women can expect a bauble.  Earrings now come in so many variations that it's easy to make a sports team logo or image of a cat dangle from each lobe.  Team swag comes as mugs, clothing, or anything else clever admen can hire artists to create for mass production.  Things handed to my wife with each Hanukkah candle require no weight considerations.  Shipping by rail or air does better with candy, textiles, and jewelry as transport fees correlate with weight.  The shape of the item also matters.  I prefer rectangular that I can gift wrap.  Books, cloth items that can be folded and placed into boxes, either purchased or harvested from boxes of printer ink or k-cups boxes.  I have gift bags, most designed for giving, a few more in the style of a paper bag that can be made more visually appealing with a bow or decal.

Each year I can expect a few unique quirks.  These past two years, my edibles selections seem different.  Since I maintain a kosher diet, I would not gift to somebody else something I would not eat myself.  I think this is part of the ethical basis of our holidays and our personal relationships.  Until two years ago, I could expect a kosher marking on the wrapping of most sweets.  Not so the last two years.  Chocolates and baked products that had been part of my gift purchases for years often lack the certification that I seek.  Most anything made in the Mediterranean countries, Turkey, Greece, Italy, no longer contract with the rabbis.  Nor do the Belgian chocolates I used to give my wife or mail to my kids each Hanukkah.  I do not know why.  It could be innocent reasons like changes in ingredients or manufacturing sharing equipment with non-kosher products.  Or more sinister, countries that no longer want Jewish symbols on their packaging as a political statement.  In any case, the market share of kosher consumers is small enough that omission of the certification will not affect profits.  Or what was once a symbol of quality, divine approval of the product, has become an association of the manufacturers with misconduct.  Either interpretation, the selection of items has contracted for me.  So anything edible now comes from an international conglomerate or an American producer, where kosher remains a stamp of quality.

At the other pole, despite rising prices that have changed voting patterns, the price of logo items has not accelerated.  Stuff carrying local team emblems has proliferated.  So do corporate logos of snob appeal etched into glassware or imprinted on golf balls.  Cosmetics at discounters like T.J. Maxx remain plentiful.  Soaps, lip gloss, facial brushes, creams all remain within acceptable price ranges.  And most come in easily wrappable boxes.

While gift certificates are tempting, I only include one for my wife among my 28 selections.  The holiday should generate a certain gratitude.  Among mine are prosperity not only for myself but for children who each hold professional positions with large employers.  They have and fritter more than the $10 any gift card from me would afford them.  Instead, the challenge for gift selections now and fifty years back has been to assess the uniqueness of each person.  While they could buy themselves anything I might wrap for them, they likely won't.  A son who inherited my fondness for the kitchen can expect something to enhance his experience there.  My ladies who like occasional pampering can expect an indulgence or two among what I purchase on their behalf.  They are the recipients.  As the donor, I get to think about each of them as I move from department to department in a store or from table to table at a craft fair.  What might I run across that is not available to them?  A local craft with the image of their favorite childhood cartoon, a team that dominates where they once lived but has been overwhelmed by the teams of their current cities, an item taken from a vendor from a place I have visited but they have not.  Each person, even the two infants, needs their husband, dad, or grandpa to think about them.  For fifty years, I've given it my best effort.  Some elements now easier than they once were, others more challenging.  As each candle gets its flame for the eight days of Hanukkah, each person will have a moment of glee.  Less the product, more the kinship.

They Missed Something

 https://forward.com/news/785155/jfna-israel-education-generational-divide/

https://ejewishphilanthropy.com/marc-rowan-declares-mamdani-our-enemy-at-50th-uja-federation-wall-street-dinner/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJ_evTivC0I&t=1340s

Three items of note came into my awareness.  Different subjects but with a common interpretation.  The first two are traditional news articles.  The Jewish Federations of North America, an umbrella group of many purposes, assembled its key people.  Over my adult lifetime, now half a century, the people allowed a seat at the table have become less of a cross-section of the wider American Jewish public than they once were.  Thousands might have attended.  My representation was not among them.  A variant of that gaining a feature in a philanthropic newsletter described a New York gathering of Wall Street's Jewish contributors.  American's economy made me prosperous, but not philanthropically wealthy.  They don't represent me either.  What I got instead of a bottomless supply of money to cast my influence preferences, was knowledge of Judaism's underpinnings, a fierce independence, an ability to reason subservient to none, and a willingness to schect the sacred cows whose poop becomes burdensome.  Reports of these two gatherings of Dominant Influencers, present on a lesser scale in my community and synagogue, conveyed an entitlement to manipulate.  My Way or the Highway.  Or at least the exit ramps.  A lot of people took that option,  It left the Jewish upper tier with funds but fewer people than they could have had.  Maybe even without the best people that they could have had.  Reb Tevye expressed his skepticism on Broadway, "when you're rich they think you really know."  First crooned the year of my Bar Mitzvah.  Still sung at high school performances two generations later.  Wall Streeters know they can vote their shares.  

The third presents a podcast with historical underpinnings.  It displays a series of remarkable color drawings and just over a half-hour of commentary. The artwork moves sequentially with themes of the talk.  The history conveyed timelines.  It described moments of glory, institutions led by people whose personal achievements in commerce, science, and public affairs gave them an admiration, even an authority, that could be transposed to Jewish agencies.  Nobody challenged the legitimacy of those high achieving men.  Institutions already existed, many formed in the World War 1 era amid formation of unions, the Scouts, Workman's Circle, burial societies, nascent Jewish advocacy groups.  Visionaries transformed these grass roots banding together to institutions that could maintain a legacy.  Many promoted unity as the path to successfully achieving the element of power needed to secure each group's interests.

Indeed American Judaism did thrive, but in a less idealized way than the podcast suggested.  My Bar Mitzvah took place on Shabbat HaGadol, 1964.  My tallit, which I still wear twice a year, was woven of silk and was crafted in Israel, displaying the shade of blue that Israelis display on their flags.  The Six-Day War would not happen for another three years.  Jews did not yet have access to our most sacred historical structures.  In America, Jews had emerged from World War II.  Our fathers served in Europe or the Pacific, let Uncle Sam subsidize their college degrees that they never expected to have, and relocated us to suburban tracts with great local schools and nascent synagogues which promised to process every school age male through to Bar Mitzvah, leaving something for the daughters too.  We had institutions.  My Rabbi graduated from the Jewish Theological Seminary.  Across town, the Reform Rabbi had his ordination from their flagship seminary.  Other American rabbis received their training in pre-war Europe, displaced by the conflict, sometimes by the concentration camps.  A growing American synagogue structure offered stable, though not always lucrative employment.  Our congregations also had its share of native Europeans.  Most, like my grandparents' generation, arrived in New York before the restrictive immigration laws.  Others settled as war refugees.  

Those people created American Judaism, the world of summer camps, Hebrew School, USY Bowling Leagues.  But also an alluring secular world.  They attended City College or state university.  I could set my sights on the Ivies, provided I remained diligent in public school.  Israel had a mixed identity.  Our teachers taught us about it in multiple dimensions.  That land had been promised to us and after a long absence, Jews regained sovereignty, but an insecure one.  Its inhabitants included idealists from Eastern Europe but also people seeking refuge.  We learned of Holocaust survivors, and an obligation to offer them a piece of our American prosperity.  The distinction between gifts, as donations to plant trees, and loans as Israel Bonds, did not seem part of our curriculum.  Nor did the real population swell that overlapped with many of our birth years.  Those inhabitants of Muslim lands who experienced retribution from their native countries because a place of Jewish sovereignty had become a reality.

The creators of the podcast express the same contemporary issue, though in different ways. Superimpoosing the news items with the podcast, I think the themes unite in an important way.  Each deals with fragmentation of the Jewish base of support for Israel.  For decades, at least since a need to address Holocaust devastation of Judaism from its base in Europe, the need to have a refuge, a place on earth with Jewish sovereignty.  has been a cultural imperative.  Whether it served well as an anti-dote to anti-Semitism, globally and in America, can be debated from numerous perspectives.  But when Israel came under attack in 1967, the outpouring of support and funds crossed all Jewish perspectives.  It came at a time of rising economic and social standing of America's older Jewish immigrants and younger native born. People of my generation knew Holocaust survivors personally in America and understood that Israel provided a refuge to whoever sought their protection.  We did not forget useful, maybe even essential partnerships. African-Americans, as their identity moved ahead from Negroes to Black to current language begun in that era, welcomed Jews who could relate to their own struggles.   Lobbying for repressed Soviet Jews had just begun.  It was an era of goodwill, at least in part.  It was also an era when communal leadership earned the respect due to individuals who had made the most of their difficult circumstances.

This took multiple forms.  Immigrants to early 20th century NY City, which included my grandparents, had little choice but to look out for each other.  Though my maternal grandparents would survive another half century, people of the community would purchase burial plots so that everyone could have a final resting place.  My grandfather and extended family subscribed.  When I visit Adolph Ullman, a small tract amid a vast Beth David Cemetery, I can wander through the stone gate and locate not only my mother and grandparents but their siblings who met a few times a year in a rented hall in Queens.  Beyond my own family, Jews banded together for common benefit.  Out of the effort came labor unions and Workman's Circles, a benevolent form of socio-economic safety net.  Largesse did not only come internally.  My parent's generation attended City College and its divisions.  They fought for the American military, some in each of the two World Wars, and others in Korea.  At my Bar Mitzvah, between wars, some men sat in the sanctuary and reception tables in Air Force and Army uniforms.  These men, and their new wives or betrothed but not yet wed, were too old to be my older brothers but too junior to be my parents.  We had a continuum.

While making institutions secure, litmus tests emerged, along with influencers who thought they could enforce whatever path leadership directed.  The following sixty years, whether the historical timeline of the podcast or the news reports of who gets to attend meetings where the Who's Who present their vision to their echo chambers, showed limitations to that authority.  Intermarriage publicity starting with Look Magazine's The Vanishing American Jew cover story generated a shunning stragety with threats of adverse consequences to resistors.  Authortity cannot mandate demographics, nor can it temper resentment.  Eventually those mostly self-made leaders hired professionals to create programming and influence policy decisions of whoever American voters elect.  Much investment went into creating leadership, one which socialized proteges more than it nurtured the independence and vision that created each legacy institution.  Oppose the mandate and you could be shunned, just like the intermarried were.  This has some very negative consequences.  People feel unwelcomed, even marginalized.  They don't want to tilt at windmills or carry unending minority views.  They don't take kindly to ranking as inferior, either by more modest wealth or by ideas that diverge from the banner each agency's poobah's demand everyone unfurl in the illusion of unity.  The ability to impose on people that way, to mistreat many, including myself at times, along the way, presupposes that they have no recourse and must therefore maintain allegiance.  Ironically, the efforts of the the original visionaries, those mostly men who help eradicate public anti-semitism in my young adult years, gave us a lot of alternatives.  Instead of licking our wounds as our children acquired Christian spouses, we could stay home from synagogue.  Our medical, legal, scientific, and commercial opportunities gave us forums to belong to worthy organizations that valued us with fewer conditions than many Jewish ones did.  Our synagogues are smaller and older.  As our Israel homeland has become more secure, our willingness to excuse every policy in the name of Jewish unity has acquired more boundaries.  When unwelcome, as many of us perceive ourselves to be, we can divert our synagogue dues and Jewish agency charitable dollars towards our alma maters and our secular institutions that have more successfully nurtured our loyalties.  The proteges of the founding leaders dealt with the autonomy that many Jewish Americans have aquired rather poorly.  The keynote speakers at a gathering of 2000 Wall Street demanding loyalty to them as leaders will probably keep those moguls or wannabes aboard.  They need a bigger fraction of the other five million American Jews and their talents than what those on the podiums declare as their entitlement.  

Judaism needs Kehillah, or community, as a core principle.  Our Torah describes leadership in many ways, not all of them flattering by modern standards.  As the video outlines, we started off with endless potential.  It become too selective, too demeaning of challenges.  What the two advocacy meetings really portrayed were the recessive genes of inbreeding expressed as the norm.  Functional, but without the allure that the icons of my grandparent's generation envisioned as where American Judaism might not only reach its Golden Age but keep it moving upwards indefinitely. 

One of my alma maters, an honorable Jesuit university, installed its latest President in a podcast ceremony.  In his featured remarks, he noted that the school he now leads benefited from its share of misdeeds.  The thirteen Jesuit founders brought sixed enslaved men to help them.  I could walk through an expanded campus in the 1970s because the school had claimed domain to the surrounding neighborhood, displacing a poor community less than just compensation.  Things that brought public benefit, but now seen as with some insensitivity to the victims.  My Jewish world has its element of benefit from its share of overpowering some people's vulnerability or lack of recourse.  The new University President claimed ownership all aspects of my alma mater's legacy.  My Jewish institutions generated a leadership that approaches those left behind, or often treated contemptuously, as deserving nothing better, not then, not now.  Two thousand of them from Wall Street.

Thanksgiving Effort

The day has arrived.  Guests coming mid-afternoon, which creates deadlines.  Planning started about two weeks ago, menu partly adapted to guests.  Fewer this year, but I do not have to drive anyone from their home to mine and back.

Menu set, with a mixture of mostly new.  Some from books, some recipes online.  I learned to do what I can the day before.

Motzi:  Zemel Rolls.  I've never made rolls before.  My recipe calls for incorporating onions into the flour, as well as topping with grated onion and poppy seeds.  On its first rise.

Appetizer: Corn fritters.  A lot of grinding but I have a food processor.  Will need to allow drain time.  It is made on the stovetop, as there is competition for oven time.  Thanksgiving usually preceeds Hanukkah by a few weeks.  There will be more fritters then, in the form of potato latkes.

Fish Soup:  Thanksgiving always precedes Shabbos, which approaches its earliest start time within a week or two of Thanksgiving.  This is one of those versatile starters that I can revisit the next day.  And it doesn't seem all that hard to make.

Cucumber Salad:  I picked an easy one, halved the recipe.  Vinagrette just needs some mixing.  Vegetables need mostly slicing.  Cucumber, red onion, dill.  Put in baggie until needed.

Turkey half breast:  Very convenient.  Just olive oil, season, stick in oven for 90 minutes, cool and slice with an electric knife.  Usually enough for guests who live alone to take this part of their shabbos meal home, while leaving enough for me.  Only drawback, coordinating that 90 minutes of oven time with other things that need the oven for shorter periods.

Crock pot stuffing:  Bit of a snag.  I intended to use leftover challah, only to find it moldy when I removed it from its plastic bag.  I harvested enough bread and loaf cake scraps to continue.  A bit messy to make.  Cubing bread.  Melting pareve margarine.  Seasoning.  Incorportating eggs.  But once in crockpot, with an initial 45 minutes on high, it goes on autopilot low setting for hours, until ready to serve.

Sweet Potatoes:  I usually make a casserole of some type with this.  Bit of a misadventure with my cuisinart chopper.  Minor injury to the bowl's top but does not affect use.  A lot of slicing.  Fair number of ingredients.  Need to time the oven needs around other things.  

Cranberry sauce:  Easy to make in advance, which I did.  Bag of cranberries with few berries culled out.  Water + sugar to make a syrup.  Add cranberries until they pop.  Season.  I squeezed a small orange, added some zest, finished with cloves and allspice.  Cool and chill in plastic container.  Serve in something more elegant.

Peas:  Ultimate in simple.  Bought frozen peas.  Microwave when needed.

Oatmeal cranberry torte:  Also made night before.  A bit messy but not hard.  Pelling and dicing apples is tedious.  Then add can of whole berry cranberry sauce.  Crust has fair number of ingredients but assembles easily.  Pop in oven.  Hard to overbake.

Beverages:  Guests don't consume alcohol.  I saved a can of good beer for myself.  Chilled sparkling cider for them.  All in stemmed glasses, even my beer.

This needs a game plan.  I'm on it.

Not Been Back Yet

New Year's resolutions have never been my approach to personal upgrades.  Not January 1.  Not 1 Tishrei, Rosh Hashanah, my Jewish New Year.  Yet this RH enabled a convenient demarcation point.  By tradition, really by Jewish Law, the electronic devices shut down for those Festival days.  I opted to extend my break from social media indefinitely.  Two months have elapsed.  Facebook gone.  Twitter rated X gone.  Reddit restricted to r/Judaism and r/JewishCooking.  Not totally, just the interactive portions.  I share some of what I've written or podcasted onto FB, once to Twitter.  I do not open it to see responses.  If an email, intended to lure my retina back to the screen, suggests a comment of condolence, I check it out.  Perhaps I should also convey sympathy in the right circumstances.  But now past Rosh Chodesh Kislev, or two months beyond RH, I remain free of FB and Twitter.  Reddit Judaism I've returned, always with a timer, always restricting my comments to those that another poster would find helpful.

I miss almost none of this engagement.  FB has a site where travelers through America ask for guidance.  I had become a Top Contributor by recommending places for visitors to prioritize when visiting either my region or places where I have previously lived or traveled.  It does not compensate for the clutter.

On Twitter, many authors whose items I read have established a place to receive feedback.  My comments are limited by word or character counts.  Remarks of others are predictably partisan.  And the author almost never responds.  Email has been a more effective way to prompt exchange, even if only thanks for reading.  Understandably, somebody who writes a key article for a publication with a circulation in the hundreds of thousands will find a very cluttered email box.  Nearly all the authors now no longer disclose their direct contact information.  

Still, two months into this initiative, I feel more in control, as well as physically stronger for other reasons.  FB still sends emails trying to lure my log in.  Many fewer than my first two weeks away.  If it hints of condolence I pursue it.  Otherwise it gets deleted unopened from my email inbox.  This seems to be the best way to avoid the damage that global social media has created.

Replacing a Flash Drive

After I gave my last major presentation, I purchased a suitable flash drive to store my documents.  It did not have loaded to it.  Maybe one PowerPoint and one or two Word Documents.  No pictures of travel or my infant grandchildren.  Nothing irreplaceable.  Many come with access to keychains.  I never lose my car or house keys.  I do lose flash drives.  The loop that enables placement on a ring has the same plastic that makes the case of the device.  Every one I have ever owned snapped off the host key ring, most lost forever.  As a result, the last two that I've purchased, I keep in a coin purse.  One in the interseat compartment of my car, the other in my pocket with the coins.

Unfortunately, my last two coin pouches came to my possession as freebies offered at expo tables.  One a sturdy coarse material, the other a lighter nylon fabric.  The cloth does well.  The seams do not.  Each has separated.  I repair each with packing tape or duct tape, only to have the seam separate somewhere else.  One pouch I designated as my auto first aid kit, supplying it with Band-Aids, salve, and tape.  It sits in the interseat compartment of my car.  The other seemed to do well in my pocket.

I looked for the flash drive.  Not there.  Lots of coins.  An Eagles money holder with a few small folded bills.  A micro tool set too innocuous to get a TSA inspector suspicious.  But no flash drive.  Fortunately, nothing on it of irreplaceable value, or even immediately needed content.  I looked at the cloth pouch.  Another seam separation, large enough for the flash drive, too small for the currency clip.  These pocket pouches are not easy to replace, but duct tape won't suffice.  I don't think sewing is the way to go either.  I'll keep my eye open for a replacement.

The flash drive should be replaced.  Needing an afternoon escape, I drove not far to Target, expecting both small electronics and a suitable coin purse.  I found no coin purses.  They carried flash drives.  I walked to the back of the store where a few hung from hooks.  Target has been losing shoppers, with multiple pundits promoting their pet reasons.  DEI policy, scarce employees, inferior selections, and prices higher than Walmart.  Don't know about DEI, but the others seem true.  While my storage needs are few, I really did not want to settle for less than 64G.  Lowest price, about $12 had 32G.  Anything above that, much more costly, and only one brand of somewhat shoddy appearing devices.

I left purchasing nothing.  Back to my laptop.  Search Flash Drive.  Now Google could at least tell me where to buy one.  A few retail options.  Staples, Best Buy, Walmart, Walgreens.  The drug store had a minimal selection at a high price.  Staples looked good.  staples.com looked very inviting.  I drove there.  No better than Target.  A few 32G items for about $12, everything else much more.  I did not want to drive to Walmart and have shunned Best Buy based on some past experiences.  

Online shopping seemed a good option.  Amazon had oodles of choices at favorable prices.  I would need to buy other things to avoid a shipping charge that would add a significant increment to my flash drive purchase.  There are things that I'd considered, including the coin purse and some tissue box holders, but unlikely to get me to the Amazon threshold.

One of the suggestions that popped up is temu.com, that controversial Chinese firm which trades reliability against low prices.  I've bought things from them before.  Most good buys, one item unusable.  They had a lot of flash drives.  Up to now, mine have always had a USB A connector.  At Temu they displayed dual connectors, one A for my laptop, one C for my cell phone.  Storage 256G.  Price $13 + $3 shipping.  While Temu probably has a tariff expense as a Chinese retailer, they apparently have an American warehouse which either avoids the tariff surcharge or it has already been paid by the importer.  I can handle $16.

Placing the order took more effort than placing one at Amazon, Wayfair, or Walmart, my usual sources of e-commerce.  It went through.  I expect the item to arrive within a week.  No urgency on my part.  However, Temu has a reputation for items not arriving at all.  I risk $16.

I wonder about some of my local stores, though.

Will Go Another Time

Day trips usually provide me a needed respite.  I do not schedule them as rewards for tackling more onerous tasks, though perhaps I should.  No, they stand alone as needed recreation.  I'm fortunate to have the resources to leave home for short periods of time.  My car gets me to where I want to go.  My age enables senior discounts, including free use of the SEPTA system within the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.  My finances are stable.  Spending $100 for a day's recreation will not set my financial position back in a meaningful way.  I enjoy good, or at least fully functional, health as a senior.  No work obligations in retirement, though there are things I have committed myself to accomplish that these days away from home postpone.

I am also fortunate to live close enough to places I might want to visit, which allows me to depart and return on the same day.  New York metro three hours counting either driving or using public transit. A recent trip there went well.   Amish country and Poconos closer than that. I visit Lancaster a few times a year.  NJ across a bridge, one that I mostly cross when my destination requires me to drive through the Garden State.  Downstate Delaware resorts easily accessible by car.  Baltimore sits less than two hours by interstate.  Each has museums, sights to see, local wines or brews to sip, places to experience.  No excuse for not setting aside a day to travel to one of these.

Some contingencies exist.  I dislike driving in downtown traffic or paying through the nose to park my car.  Public transit from where I live to NYC can be some combination of inconvenient if economical and expensive if more user friendly, as I recently learned.  Weather usually gets checked as far in advance as reports become reliable, usually two days.  If I am visiting a place indoors, the rain matters little, unless I have a seven block walk to get from the parking garage or transit stop to get the place I intended to visit.  My wardrobe includes sufficient warm and layering items, so the cold is less of a deterrent.  Seasonal closure of where I'd like to go will change my plans, as it did for a short multiday outing to Long Island a few winters ago.

My default has become Philadelphia, that blend of activity, price, and attractions.  The Pennsylvania Lottery profits had been designated for senior services, including free use of the regional transit system.  Residency in Pennsylvania was not required but travel within it is.  As a result, I drive to the Pennsylvania station nearest my home, about a ten-minute drive, pay $2 parking at the kiosk next to the station, flash my Senior card on a screen outside the loading area, and show it to the conductor after the train has pulled toward the big city.  Not a luxurious ride, nor a scenic one, as residents littered much of the length of this suburban and city track.  Depending on time of travel, unrestricted for seniors, the cars can get crowded.  But I've not encountered any overtly unfriendly conduct from the passengers.  In 45 minutes or so, depending on the chosen destination within the city, I can exit to usually some vast expanse of an indoor mall, then onto the sidewalk.  Transfer to a city subway or bus, also free, mostly goes smoothly, though with one misadventure averted.

I decided last week, a day free of appointments, would be a good day to go.  Onto the station.  Parked car.  Could not get the parking kiosk to accept my credit card.  No matter.  I have their app on my phone.  That did not allow me to pay my $2 either.  By then, the train had pulled within sight of the station.  I gave up and drove home.  My only unsuccessful attempt.

Considering the minimal cost and usually minimal inconvenience, my use of the system has fallen short of what I anticipated when I got my Senior Card.  I should give it another go.  Or maybe drive someplace else.  Getting away for a day periodically still has its personal attraction.

It Shut Down

The New York Times once ran a highly publicized motto.  "You don't have to read it all, but it's nice to know it's all there."  I regarded our local Kosher offerings from my principal grocer much the same way.  I bought most of my meat there, though as empty nesters we eat meat and its leftovers mostly for Shabbos.  Their deli I found too expensive in recent years to make meaningful purchases, though I much appreciated the efforts of its anchor volunteer and supervising rabbi who ensured that real shankbones could be purchased for our Seders each spring.  I once purchased more from their bakery than I do now.  Under the agreement with the local Vaad HaKashrut, all baked products in the store would adhere to direct or indirect rabbinical supervision and carry their logo next to the ingredients on the price labels.  Prices rose, probably not because of the Kosher certification but because paying skilled bakers added to supermarket overhead. This chain has dozens if not hundreds of locations in my region.  When I read their weekly circular, the prices of their baked goods nationwide match the labels that I find at my local branch.

A notice came in my email a week ago.  The supermarket and the Vaad HaKashrut have parted ways, a decision initiated by the supermarket.  Needing some meat for Shabbos dinner, I headed over to purchase it, along with a few other items that this week's newsprint ad brought to my attention.  They still had a section of fresh Kosher meat, though not much selection.  All is processed, packaged, and labeled by major processors, so these do not require local supervision.  I buy what they discount most times, including this.  My choice:  chicken thighs or whole unboned breasts.  Based on price and utility, I now have two chicken breast halves with skin and bones, items of great kitchen versatility to supply two Shabbatot.  My unwillingness to pay full price, and my household's simple meat needs probably contributed to this store's decision to stock their Kosher meat shelves in a minimal way. 

On all errands there I look for my good friend who makes this deli function.  We exchange notes since the last time we chatted, usually a few weeks between personal greetings.  Not only was he not present, the case that contained the Kosher meat and salad products stood empty.  The shelves remained, glass fronts still transparent, but illumination off.  The sign on the countertop announcing that locally certified corned beef and lox could be acquired there had been removed.  While that represented the most obvious change, we still have Kosher consumers in my part of town.  Packaged Jewish products still appeared on adjacent shelving and in the self-serve refrigerator to the right of the deli case.  We would not have to go without commercial herring, lox, kugel, or certified cheese.  Being a sucker for baked products, and a reasonably experienced amateur baker at home, I gravitate to their bakery section.  I will buy donuts and danish and cakes from any bakery, if I know that animal products did not appear in the ingredients or preparation, but I eat those at restaurants or in my car.  At home I like to see the hechsher.

As a routine on my grocery excursions, typically weekly, I search the bakery for bargains.  The market places a wooden slatted shelf near the registers, the last thing a shopper sees before accessing the checkout, with bakery items discounted for clearance.  I can expect six-packs of intermediate sized danish in two varieties, or slices of their high end cakes clear polystyrene clamshell packaging, or day old rye bread in its plastic sleeve.  The local Kosher certification logo no longer appeared on any of those items.

Twenty-one years of partnership between that supermarket and Kosher consumers had reached a partial conclusion, though pre-packaged products of Ashkenazi cuisine still appeared in their expected locations.  History matters.  This relationship started as a personal friendship.  My town had stable enterprises when my wife and I arrived forty-five years ago.  The butcher sold fresh meat, two Kosher delis had served diners for decades, though the patrons had long since moved to different parts of town.  An arrangement had been made with a local Jewish entrepreneur for baked goods, half his diner served non-kosher, but a designated Kosher case enabled fresh challot, bread, and bagels, though not donuts.  Somebody from the Vaad made frequent on-site visits to ensure adequate separation.  Family-owned businesses have life cycles.  Owners retire.  Their children become lawyers and dentists.  As demand for Kosher meat waned, the butcher gave up his shop, changing it to a source of non-Kosher catering, but not before providing dairy platters for my son's bris.  The restaurants closed.  The owner of the challah bakery, always with a line out the door every Friday morning, cashed out.  His suburban location became a Starbucks, while his in-town shop found a pizza chain to take over.  

My own need with a young family was to provide meat.  Our nearest major city's Jewish enclave stood a 45-minute drive northeast.  At the time, it contained a few dedicated Kosher markets offering every variety of Kosher meat.  Locally people debated over which offered the best value.  People tried to pool their orders together to make periodic delivery arrangements economically viable for some of the stores.  I maintained my independence, along with a preference to see what I was purchasing, as well as special sales items.  At six week intervals, I would make the trip.  Often my grade school son joined me for a two hour father-son bond.  I had a sense of what fits in my freezer and how long it will take to use it up.  My wife could expect me to return with a roast, London broil, stew cubes, a slice of beef liver, sometimes a raw tongue, chicken parts of various types, a duck if my daughter's birthday approached.  I found some treasure hunt elements, sweetbreads, pastrami, and premade items already frozen that just needed reheating in the oven.  I did not mind the travel especially with targeted child time.  We ate well in exchange for some inconvenience.

Others cut down their meat consumption or altered their diets to less beef and more Empire frozen poultry. available at some of the supermarkets where many of us shopped.  Perhaps a healthier alternative for many, even if more default than voluntary.  At about the same time, towns with smaller Jewish populations had taken their own initiatives to secure Kosher meat, amid the closure of their local butchers.  Fewer families seemed committed to Kosher.  My Rabbi took such a measure.

He counted among his personal friends the CEO of one of the local markets, a four-store franchise of a larger regional chain.  This parent distributor already served much of metropolitan New York and Philadelphia, offering considerable experience with supplying consumers who maintained Kosher homes.  Rabbi and friend, a stocky fellow of Irish heritage, devised a workable plan.  His individual store in the area of densest local Jewish population, already a megamart, would add three sections for the Kosher folks.  They would begin carrying fresh Kosher meat, with dedicated facilities to make custom cuts and to order special products from approved distributors.  A deli section would be established, one closed on Shabbos, with a single individual to serve the customers at a designated counter.  The bakery would carry only Kosher items including anything prepared on-site.  The Vaad,  the agency that assures Kosher standards are maintained, would offer its seal to any baked goods prepared on site and to any meat processed in the store.  In addition, the distributor would expand the array of prepackaged Kosher meat, cheese, and specialty delicatessen.  In exchange, the Rabbi would promote that store as the place his congregants should designate as their primary grocery store.

I worked magnificently.  The shleps to the Orthodox neighborhood of the next city ended, with only a small sacrifice of meat selection.  Orders for specialty items became available, though my request for a goat for Seder, for which I have a recipe, could not be fulfilled.  Their bakery expanded.  I could get corned beef and sometimes pastrami by the quarter or half pound.  Sliced lox was priced beyond my willingness to purchase, but lox pieces became a common addition to my cart.  This hummed along past the Rabbi's retirement and into the tenure of his successor.  The deli man, an affable Holocaust survivor, became a popular fixture there.  The new Rabbi made provisions to maintain the deli during Passover.

Projects like this depend on dedicated champions, a certain amount of goodwill, and a measure of luck.  It also needs to be profitable for the grocer.  

The first disruption came nationally, not locally.  The largest Kosher distributor, known as Rubashkin, processed Kosher beef from their Iowa facility on a commercial scale.  As a shopper, I could count on a wide selection of cuts at an acceptable price, something I put into my cart on the majority of visits.  They were able to offer this economy through some very questionable business practices, from mistreating immigrants, often illegal labor, cutting safety standards, and improper transfer of funds, leading to the conviction of its CEO.  The operation shut down.  Its replacement could not duplicate variety or price.  As a result, most of my beef purchases required the store to discount by 25% to get it sold before expiration.  The cuts became largely hamburger, stew cubes, and minute steaks, with an occasional brisket for a special occasion.  Poultry fared a little better.  Empire Poultry has been a staple Kosher brand.  Fresh selection usually has skinless, boneless breast halves, whole cut chicken, often uncut whole chicken, often leg quarters.  I can get any of these, make half that week, freeze the other half.  Empire has a frozen basket in the meat section.  Not seen duck in years.  Mostly whole frozen chickens and turkeys. While I've made capon in the days I traveled to the large dedicated butcher, I do not miss not having it.  As a result, the selection enables meals, often quite good meals as basic chicken serves as a culinary blank canvas to be filled in.  No need yet to return to the drivable population center, though perhaps once or twice a year, I'd like to create a deli platter.  Perhaps worth an infrequent drive for that.

While notice of the grocer's disaffiliation with the local Kosher agency appeared abruptly, hints of discontent floated subtly.  Projects of this type depend on champions to make it go, people who avoid discord, people commited to the project's success.  It started just that way.  The founding Rabbi and grocery CEO worked well together.  The employee assigned as manager had an extensive presence in our Jewish community.  Nobody was more likable than that Holocaust survivor who sliced the cold cuts and made Kosher rotisserie chickens for the Shabbos tables every Friday.  The CEO retired.  The elderly deli man had to step down.  The Vaad had a Rabbinical transition that did not affect operations, in fact, it made them more solid in some ways.  Their successors did not do as well.  The on-site anchor, volunteer, was a trusted friend of the certifying rabbi.  A man of autonomy, expertise, and commitment for sure.  Some movers and shakers, including office holders of the Vaad, had their objections.  With the next rabbinical transition, the departing rabbi stayed on as the person offering certification, largely in absentia.  The new Rabbi and People of Influence opted to do their end runs when they could have resolved grievances.  Without an Orthodox Rabbi as the on-site director of Kosher, and with the children of the retired CEO lacking personal friendships other than the man who made the deli and bakery go, the commitment to serving the local Kosher consumers would eventually swoon.

Judaism is ultimately about how you treat people and how you promote cohesion.  That's how it began.  Two men, personal friends, acting as friends, achieving a win-win.  As people transition, some are not treated in the most dignified way.  They carve out their territories.  Supermarket Kosher, less strong than its start, but with exclusions of key people driven by understandable, though often harmful, antagonisms.  Judaism requires that dignified treatment as its core message because outcome depends on it.  When the new deli man, the person who made it go, stepped down for unannounced reasons, the current CEO no longer had loyalty to the local Kosher Committee.  She opted to empty the cases, remove the signs, and change the label makers to remove the local Kosher symbols from the baked goods.

Will another Kosher arrangement return?  It could, but the people who could make it happen may not have the fundamental admiration or trustworthiness needed to achieve this.  Many are scripted by Jewish Leadership Development programs, which promote unity by authority at the expense of autonomy.  They presumptuously label subordinates as people who owe them obedience. Some will be though the best talents often place a high value on their independence. 

Many places have had delivery arrangements for years.  The Kosher butcher of Rochester takes periodic orders to deliver to Syracuse to the east and Buffalo to the west on a schedule.  That could happen.  Our Chabad obtains its meat not from our nearest city, but from an Orthodox center more than twice as far.  Their arrangement works well for them.  The people in my town can expect less convenience.  We will still have Kosher food, even if the periodic schleps to fill freezers resume.  We know how to do this.  But our community will zip along Jewishly as less than it once was or could have remained with less entitled people leading it.